A Simple Lesson To Help Get Your Ex Back
Please take a few moments to view this video from Dr. Wayne Dyer. I promise what you gain from it will far outweigh the few minutes it takes to view it. It’s a touching story that, on the surface, does not appear to relate to getting your ex back. However, there are life lessons that can be learned from this story and applied to all your relationships.What a beautiful and touching story.
There are many lessons we can take from Teddy’s story. Maybe the most obvious lesson is that it is just too easy for us to have a narrow, and often negative, view of others.
It’s sad to say, but sometimes it’s just too easy to see faults in others and to notice their shortcomings. It’s pretty scary for me to think that my friends and loved ones can just as easily notice all my flaws as well!
As human’s, we’re built to notice these things rather easily. In fact, research has shown that we remember the negative much more easily and readily than we do the positive. Politicians have always known this, which is why their campaigns focus so heavily on mudslinging the opponent.
However, when we take the opposite stance the world literally comes alive for us in the most amazing way. By embracing the unique strength skills, talents, beauty, and wonder in all our close friends, relatives, and even aquantainces, we are often rewarded more than we ever could have imagined.
So what does all this have to do with getting back together with your ex?
Consider this….
After a relationship ends, our natural inclination is to worry that we are going to lose this relationship forever. Losing someone who you love so much is a natural fear.
And that’s a keyword to remember. Fear.
Because of fear, we do some crazy things! We beg and plead for a lover or spouse to stay with us. We say and do things we regret. We just aren’t ourselves because we’re so worried about losing someone.
Think of the teacher in Teddy’s story. Initially, she noticed so many things about Teddy that could be perceived as negative. Perhaps, she didn’t fear Teddy, but it’s safe to say she didn’t approach her relationship with him from a place of love at that time.
But she was a bright and sensitive woman. After hearing one comment by Teddy, she made a decision to change the way she approached teaching forever.
And that single decision changed both their lives forever.
Once she began showing genuine concern and love for Teddy, things changed for the better.
I’d be willing to bet 100 people could watch that video and come away with 100 different lessons.
For me, the main lesson is to approach your relationships from a place of love not fear.
If you read my email mini-course, the 10 Biggest Breakup Mistakes, you see 10 examples of behavior that comes from fear, not love. Begging, pleading, negotiating, making your ex jealous, and so on….. these are all examples of the way we act when we are afraid we are going to lose someone forever.
But we’ll get much farther in our relationships if we come from a place of love, not fear.
So show genuine care and concern for the special people in your life. Be forgiving and be caring towards your ex. Listen and truly try to understand where they are coming from, even if you disagree with them. Do something nice for your ex, with no expectations attached. You get the idea.
I promise you that you will drastically improve your chances of getting back together by acting on love, not fear.
To your success,
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